Good Morning Ladies!
Steffi - I know how that goes, when you're working you stick to a routine better. I know you feel better being out there again, even if it might be temporary. Hopefully, the job will last longer than a little while!
Kimmy - I'm sending your words back to you - "Don't forget to take care of YOU!"
Julie -
at Pat....I always argue, what's the guidelines to define
"normal"? Everyone is unique.
Sandrine - There you go, zipping through again! (moving quickly and briefly)
Karrie - I'm so proud of you about bringing less work home! You needed that! And I definately know about those vending machines sucking your change purse dry....I used to. I used to spend $3 a day, which added up to $60 a month! I stopped going to the vending machines when I did the math! That's healthy food grocery money!
And the surrogate/threat questions: I helped Jay's brother and his spouse with having a child. They had tried to adopt and it would never work out for them. The threat from the sister was about eBay. Jay's brother brought over a bunch of stuff and put it in our store last year. Jay asked him what he wants us to do with it, and he said to sell it. He didn't care. I listed ONE outfit from the baby, along with two of dd-J's dresses as a lot on eBay. The set sold two weeks ago. But somehow, the sister saw that outfit and it was one that SHE had bought for the baby. She typed me an email through eBay - "How dare you sell the baby's clothes! I worked hard to buy those clothes for the baby. I double dare you to sell another one because I will tell eBay that you're selling stolen property." And that's just a few lines of it, along with a physical threat. (But the woman is in Texas, what's she gonna do to me from down there?!) I called Jay's brother and the spouse, I was more irritated than anything. I just don't appreciate being threatened. Especially when eBay is our only source of income right now. I told them nicely to take care of the sister, she has no business sending me that threat. I told them the law will be on my side because it states "anything left or abandoned on someone's property for over 30 days is legally theirs". I reminded them that they left it here a year ago and said to sell it. I offered them the money I got for the dress if they really cared. But the spouse went into this screaming mode "How dare you accuse my family of doing such a thing?! You're lying!" and went on to describe me as the scum of the earth.....
Now THAT is what got me. I really didn't care about the immature email the sister sent, I just wanted them to let her know it's none of her business. What the heck did she want them to do? Build a shrine out of the baby's old clothes when she outgrows them?! But really, how could they blow me off like that.....especially since if I wasn't kind enough to carry that baby for them - they wouldn't have her in the first place?! We contacted eBay - they agreed with us, it isn't stolen property since they abandoned the clothes with us a year ago. eBay considers the email as a threat, so they're investigating it for us on where it came from. And eBay shut down the account it came from. As far as I understand, we can press charges. eBay assured us that we are doing the right thing. They will let us know the details as they get them.
The threat is really a miniscule thing next to Jay's brother and his spouse's reaction. I'm really not trying to hang the baby over their heads. I don't want the baby back or anything. Just the fact that we've done so much for them - giving them money, loaning our vehicles, helping them move 7 times over the past 4 years (one time cross country, and one time from state to state), getting them groceries, giving them clothes and toys for the baby, running 39 miles to their house just to give them gas money. We never once asked for anything back besides our vehicles, after they've had the vehicle for several months or a year. We never once asked them to pay us back. And THEY nevered offered to pay us back. They always brought our vehicles back on empty, and never paid the insurance on them. They never offered us grocery money when they knew we were suffering. We took it all in stride. But NOW?
That is why I spent all day crying Wednesday. It was about all the sacrifices we've made for these most unappreciative people! I am usually not an "eye for an eye" person. They have pushed us too far now. Jay and I are both devestated. Now, I'm just angry.
So there's the whole story. Sorry it got long. I didn't want to get into all of it. But now y'all aren't scratching your heads about it.
Jay and I are just staying in with my Mom today. We've got the movie "Nights of Rodenthane" with Richard Gere and Diane Lane. We're all going to curl up with the movie and watch the rain out the window.
I hope y'all have a good day! Don't forget it's Friday the 13th, so be careful!
(If you believe in the superstition!)
Big
to y'all!
Steffi - I know how that goes, when you're working you stick to a routine better. I know you feel better being out there again, even if it might be temporary. Hopefully, the job will last longer than a little while!
Kimmy - I'm sending your words back to you - "Don't forget to take care of YOU!"
Julie -
at Pat....I always argue, what's the guidelines to define
"normal"? Everyone is unique.
Sandrine - There you go, zipping through again! (moving quickly and briefly)
Karrie - I'm so proud of you about bringing less work home! You needed that! And I definately know about those vending machines sucking your change purse dry....I used to. I used to spend $3 a day, which added up to $60 a month! I stopped going to the vending machines when I did the math! That's healthy food grocery money!
And the surrogate/threat questions: I helped Jay's brother and his spouse with having a child. They had tried to adopt and it would never work out for them. The threat from the sister was about eBay. Jay's brother brought over a bunch of stuff and put it in our store last year. Jay asked him what he wants us to do with it, and he said to sell it. He didn't care. I listed ONE outfit from the baby, along with two of dd-J's dresses as a lot on eBay. The set sold two weeks ago. But somehow, the sister saw that outfit and it was one that SHE had bought for the baby. She typed me an email through eBay - "How dare you sell the baby's clothes! I worked hard to buy those clothes for the baby. I double dare you to sell another one because I will tell eBay that you're selling stolen property." And that's just a few lines of it, along with a physical threat. (But the woman is in Texas, what's she gonna do to me from down there?!) I called Jay's brother and the spouse, I was more irritated than anything. I just don't appreciate being threatened. Especially when eBay is our only source of income right now. I told them nicely to take care of the sister, she has no business sending me that threat. I told them the law will be on my side because it states "anything left or abandoned on someone's property for over 30 days is legally theirs". I reminded them that they left it here a year ago and said to sell it. I offered them the money I got for the dress if they really cared. But the spouse went into this screaming mode "How dare you accuse my family of doing such a thing?! You're lying!" and went on to describe me as the scum of the earth.....
Now THAT is what got me. I really didn't care about the immature email the sister sent, I just wanted them to let her know it's none of her business. What the heck did she want them to do? Build a shrine out of the baby's old clothes when she outgrows them?! But really, how could they blow me off like that.....especially since if I wasn't kind enough to carry that baby for them - they wouldn't have her in the first place?! We contacted eBay - they agreed with us, it isn't stolen property since they abandoned the clothes with us a year ago. eBay considers the email as a threat, so they're investigating it for us on where it came from. And eBay shut down the account it came from. As far as I understand, we can press charges. eBay assured us that we are doing the right thing. They will let us know the details as they get them.
The threat is really a miniscule thing next to Jay's brother and his spouse's reaction. I'm really not trying to hang the baby over their heads. I don't want the baby back or anything. Just the fact that we've done so much for them - giving them money, loaning our vehicles, helping them move 7 times over the past 4 years (one time cross country, and one time from state to state), getting them groceries, giving them clothes and toys for the baby, running 39 miles to their house just to give them gas money. We never once asked for anything back besides our vehicles, after they've had the vehicle for several months or a year. We never once asked them to pay us back. And THEY nevered offered to pay us back. They always brought our vehicles back on empty, and never paid the insurance on them. They never offered us grocery money when they knew we were suffering. We took it all in stride. But NOW?
That is why I spent all day crying Wednesday. It was about all the sacrifices we've made for these most unappreciative people! I am usually not an "eye for an eye" person. They have pushed us too far now. Jay and I are both devestated. Now, I'm just angry.
So there's the whole story. Sorry it got long. I didn't want to get into all of it. But now y'all aren't scratching your heads about it.
Jay and I are just staying in with my Mom today. We've got the movie "Nights of Rodenthane" with Richard Gere and Diane Lane. We're all going to curl up with the movie and watch the rain out the window.
I hope y'all have a good day! Don't forget it's Friday the 13th, so be careful!
(If you believe in the superstition!)
Big
to y'all!
