Hi Everyone:)

Redchop-From yesterday: That would be awful to come home and find your father dead in your apartment. I hope that the same doesn't happen with your mother. I think you are a much stronger person than you give yourself credit for. I was with my brother-in-law when he went from his transition from life to death. He was in the recliner and didn't move the whole night. Sometimes he slide down the chair. And I went over and picked him up and put him back properly. That is how light he was at the time. Around 3:00 a.m. he started this breathing that sounded like water in his lungs. Shortly after he lifted one leg up on the leg part of the recliner and he took one arm and stretched it to the ceiling. And in the best voice he had left he said yes. He grabbed onto someone and pulled his fist to his heart and he was gone just like that. I didn't see anything there. But I know someone was.

My mother-in-law was dying and came home to die. Dh and I were taking care of her. Her breathing became very strong. And I called Hospice which gave me a hard time. They finally came hours later. I was in the room with her and the nurse took her pulse and blood pressure and she shook her head no to me. She couldn't find either one. My mother-in-law was looking at me. The Hospice nurse went into the Living Room and I was by myself with her. I watched her feet turn blue and start climbing up her legs. I went in and got the family. Finally she blinked once, opened her eyes, she blinked again opened her eyes and she was gone.

My mother was home with my Dad and sister. I go to lunch at 11:00. So I said to my friend are you ready for lunch. Oh wait a minute it's only 10:57 we still have three minutes to wait. And I had such an anxious feeling come over me. I was at lunch and I got paged, when I went to my desk my brother-in-law told me my mother had passed. So I left work and came home. Two weeks later my sister had flowers and plants and stuff from the funeral and offered them to each of us. And I said the day Mom died. I was at work and I asked my friend if she was ready to go because, it was 11:00 and then I said wait it's only 10:57. And then I got really anxious. My sister had this surprised look on her face and she said I just gave her the chills. I said why? She said the Hospice nurse said time of death 11:00. No wait 10:57 my watch is 3 minutes fast. Weird!

Have a great evening,

Karrie